Junction is right. "Bad association spoil useful habits", is etched on every dubs mind. However, I alway walked on the edge with what I called "associates", (not friends) at work. So some dubs will ignore the GB's advice and have some superficial friendships, but don't ask them to admit it!
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Friends
by clarrie inhi all.
i am wondering if a witness is supposed to have friends within the kingdom hall circle only and if it is frowned upon to be friendly with a churchgoer (methodist) .
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My Story
by 38 Years inhere's my story.
i tried to shorten it as much as possible.. my family belonged to a baptist church and i was baptized in that church when i was 8 years old.
i sincerely believed in jesus and the bible then and still do now.
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Crumpet,
My degree is in Health Science but now I work in Marketing. Go figure. I wasn't a great high school student (the 1975 thing was a great excuse to use). After high school I worked my way up from Burger King, bank teller, then secretary. In college, I didn't know what I wanted to do either, but I do know that that piece of paper opened up a lot more job interviews and job offers. I knew it would no matter what my major was. I'm still not career minded, but now I have a job I love with a comfortable modest salary. I can support myself and my son without fear of going back to minimum wage and low wages. Hope this helps.
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My Story
by Missanna inok for some reason i can't sleep tonight and feel like writing so i'm gonna tell my story of how i got to this point.
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ahhhhm.
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Missanna,
I think finding therapy is a good idea too. Remember, when you went before, you were in the dubs and with your parents. People and doctors treat you different when you are a dub. They can be cautious about saying things because they don’t want to offend. Also, your position about life and yourself has changed, so you will be more open and comfortable talking about what you have been through. Your mind is free and open, there are no restrictions anymore to how you choose to absorb the help you’ll receive. I talked to a therapist too when I first left and got a lot of support from friends. My therapist said he was enlightened when I told him things about being a dub. He had quite a few witness patients and never knew the details I told him. You got a lot of strength, you should be proud of yourself.
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Partaking at the Memorial
by 38 Years ini know you're sick of stories about the memorial, but you have to see this.
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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ccote1skw8a.
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I know you're sick of stories about the memorial, but you have to see this. (Not sure if anyone posted this yet):
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Latest news of my Husband Marco (heart surgery)
by orangefatcat inso dear friends here is the latest news about hubby's heart by- pass.. the doctor spoke with us both this evening and marco will have the surgery in a week and a half.. he is holding his own and the doctor hopes he won't have another heart attack before surgery.. there are many people that are involved with a heart team.
and so that is why we have to wait to get organized in everry way.
marco is still weak and is constantly tired.
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My thoughts and prayers are with you both.
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My Story
by Missanna inok for some reason i can't sleep tonight and feel like writing so i'm gonna tell my story of how i got to this point.
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Thanks for your story. I am so sorry you went through so much. You're right, elders won't help when your parents don't follow the rules. You are left to survive on your own. I tried and failed myself with my father's behavior. I was lucky that my father quit and the elders stopped defending him. You will get a lot of support on this Board. Congratulations on you wedding! Your husband and friends will help give you support and strength. Love your avatar! Take care.
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The Great Tribulation is picking up speed!!!!!!!!!!!!
by unbaptized inthe tribulation is really starting to speed up it's pace.
i just read that atleast 3 types of animal and plant life go extinct every hour.
global warming threatens the entire planet, crimes against women and children are at a all time high, honeybees dying off for unexplained reasons, the threat of nuclear war, the ravage of infectious disease.
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I hope it comes before I go to work tomorrow
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3RD WITNESS RAMBLINGS
by whereami inmany believe that defending the jehovah's witnesses or praising it for the accomplishments of the organization is idolizing the wt.
but aren't we really praising jehovah when we praise what the organization has accomplished.
perhaps someone does not follow their praise of the organization by saying how jehovah deserves the credit but no doubt many understand that that is to be assumed.
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Whereami, I'd respond to your comments but I don't want to help you count your time. Btw, are you supposed to be counting your time by arguing with people who quit the organization?
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Were you a non-spiritual JW?
by moshe ini sure tried to act spiritual in the beginning of my jw life.
i could go through the motions of being a good jw, but i just never could get turned on with being spiritual.i gave great talks and when i was an elder i could fill in for a no-show and never miss a beat.
however, my wife at the time always complained that we didn't do the family study or study the wt lesson ahead of time.
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I must have been because you couldn't even be spiritual if you weren't going to every meeting, studying night and day, trying to increase your field service time and get bible studies. In fact, I remember a couple of times hearing in talks that you couldn't even call yourself a JW if you weren't "active" and "spiritually strong". That made me feel really horrible and I would beat myself up even more about my inactivity. But I didn't love God any less when I was inactive. I would walk into the KH and feel I was unworthy. Sometimes, I would even get up and leave in the middle of the meeting and go home.
It's great to be free from all that!
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My Spiritual Awakening has turned to........
by AK - Jeff ingeneral apathy about religion.. i don't know precisely when it happened.
but at some point i began to stop needing anything 'organized' in my life religiously.
not too long ago - as attested to by multiple threads i started here - i was still wishing to replace the ritual of religion at the kingdom hall with some other church.
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Jeff,
Thank you for starting this post. I can't decide what to do about religion myself. I think Little Toe made a good point, "What if religion is just an organised means of people expressing their spirituality?". I wish I could keep that in mind whenever I visit a church or their website. I attended a nice church for 6 months and I have visited other churches. Everyone is really nice and seem sincere, but when they talk about membership, I don't want to go back. I want the perfect fit, but I'm becoming more convinced it doesn't exist. I blame myself because I'm being so picky. Most of the time, I don't think I need a church at all. Other times I condemn myself because I'm not making an effort. I want to keep up my spiritual beliefs, and be at peace with it. Maybe someday it will happen.